## 3. You’ve started describing the relationship in past tense
Describing the relationship mostly in terms of what it used to be, how things were in the early years, what the connection felt like before, rather than in present or forward-looking terms, is often a signal that the current relationship has become harder to describe positively in the present.
## 4. Disagreements have become either constant or nonexistent
Both extremes can signal drift. Relationships where conflict has essentially disappeared are sometimes in as much trouble as ones where couples fight constantly, because conflict’s absence can reflect a withdrawal of investment rather than achieved harmony.
## 5. You’ve stopped maintaining small shared rituals
Morning coffee together, a specific way Sunday afternoons were spent, small recurring things that belonged to the relationship without requiring planning. These rituals disappear quietly, each individually easy to explain as a change in schedule, while collectively functioning as the texture of a shared life slowly coming undone.